I am all about challenges these days. I just finished a 2 session parenting series on the Beyond Logic and Consequences book and the Stress Model. I gave a challenge to the parents attending the workshop to choose one behavior they would like help in dealing with. One behavior that a child displays that just drives the parents to distraction. And I have given teachers a 10 week challenge to change their classroom from stress to calm by working with the challenging student/students (see more on Challenging Children Facebook page). My parents in the workshop are looking at 2 months to turn around a behavior that their child/children are displaying. One single behavior. This includes anything from lying to smearing feces in the bedroom and lots of behaviors in between that are still to be identified.
Challenge to readers of this blog: take the challenge and write to me about one behavior that your child displays that you find absolutely unacceptable. I promise to guide you step by step through emails for 2 months. You can email me at connecthrulove@gmail.com I look forward to hearing from you...I look forward to the CHALLENGE! Remember trauma that occurred in the context of relationship can only be healed in the context of relationship. It cannot be healed by consequences...it can only be healed by love.
Elaine Spicer; MSW; LCSW; BCI Certified Instructor
About Me
- Elaine Spicer; LCSW
- I have been a social worker for 31 years. My work has been with families and children first in the area of Child Protective Services and then as a therapist working with the same population. I have worked with divorcing and divorced parents teaching co-parenting techniques, supervised therapists and have been a social worker for emotionally challenged children and adolescents in an inner city school system. About 7 years ago I was introduced to the work of Bryan Post and, as a friend and colleague said at the time...I went Post-al. All of my previous assumptions and indeed my work using behavioral interventions, got pushed aside. And along came the realization that none of the interventions, meant to change behaviors, had anything in common with helping children heal from the trauma they had experienced. My best work these days is as a coach/consultant for parents, other caregivers, and teachers. The services I provide are parent education, coaching, consulting and supervising. I am the mother of five adult children and grandmother to five. I am both a bio mom and an adoptive mom.
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