Welcome

to my blog, Connect thru Love. My postings will be about changing the parenting paradigm from consequences and control, which do NOT, I believe, have long term effects on behavior, to a love based teaching/living model. And what i appreciate most about this model, even from my very right-brained perspective, is that it is based on neuroscience and what and how the brain processes experiences. And though I am a therapist, when I work with families who are encountering difficult behaviors in their children, I am an educator and a coach to the parents.

I invite you to not only read, but to comment and ask questions regarding behaviors you are encountering with your children. And if you are a teacher, counselor/therapist, or case manager, I would love to hear from you as well.

To ask a question, please email me at connecthrulove@gmail.com
or simply post it in the comment section.

Monday, January 2, 2012

2012

Welcome 2012!!! And Happy New Year to all who come regularly to this blog or even sometimes. And in this day of making oh so many resolutions that we have seemingly made before and some we've kept and they bear repeating and some are still on a "to do" list somewhere, I am resolving to communicate more often with all of you. I resolve to communicate only what seems relevant to me and to do it from a place of loving responsibility. I know that I often react to something that I have seen or read or heard about and do it from a place of judgment which is just another one of those words that are based in fear. The rantings that one makes (okay that I make) come from a place of fear...fear that it is imperative that everyone "get it", everyone understand how reacting to children and to one another from a place of fear only gets a defensive reaction...fear-based. I resolve to first of all understand where adults behaviors are coming from...and respond from that understanding; validate that the reactions of adults come from some previous experience and that the best way to interrupt cycles is to teach...not to preach.