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to my blog, Connect thru Love. My postings will be about changing the parenting paradigm from consequences and control, which do NOT, I believe, have long term effects on behavior, to a love based teaching/living model. And what i appreciate most about this model, even from my very right-brained perspective, is that it is based on neuroscience and what and how the brain processes experiences. And though I am a therapist, when I work with families who are encountering difficult behaviors in their children, I am an educator and a coach to the parents.

I invite you to not only read, but to comment and ask questions regarding behaviors you are encountering with your children. And if you are a teacher, counselor/therapist, or case manager, I would love to hear from you as well.

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Sunday, March 24, 2013

"This One Child"

poem by Daniel Hughes, Clinical Psychologist, continued from facebook page:  Challenging Children

...in that moment his soul
is seen with awe and joy
and he becomes warm in my seeing.

In the very next moment
this one child
dares to show too
his blackest, deepest bits
of piercing terror
and wandering loss

In that moment his soul
is seen with awe and compassion
And he stretches into my seeing.

And then this one child
with his one soul
and his flowing smiles and tears
rests safely in my seeing
as we talk and play.





3 comments:

  1. I have seen both the terror and the tender soul of a particular child, but still don't feel equipted to Do The right thing, or even know the right thing to Do!!! This is a helpful poem, and I continue to meditate and ponder, How can I help?

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  2. I have seen both the terror and the tender soul of a particular child, but still don't feel equipted to Do The right thing, or even know the right thing to Do!!! This is a helpful poem, and I continue to meditate and ponder, How can I help?

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    1. You can best help by being there and loving the child through his meltdowns, through his pain. A child acts out because he needs attention...his behavior is his way of communicating his pain. Please feel free to share more information if you'd like in an offline email: connecthrulove@gmail.com

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I really look forward to both your questions and comments.