REFLECT, RELATE, AND REGULATE

If you are following my facebook page: Challenging Children you will see the Tip of the Week for teachers define these 3 words. And it is an intervention to use with difficult (read severe) behaviors in any and all circumstances. If you can do these three steps when dealing with your out of control child, you will find yourself responding rather than reacting AND your child WILL be calmed. She will be calmed if she has any label...e.g. Oppositional Defiant, ADHD, PTSD, Pervasive Developmental Disorder, etc. She will be calmed if she is lying to you, if she is stealing, if she is being rude and disrespectful. You are probably thinking right now that if these interventions are all things that I have to do, what has it got to do with my child? I don't need to change my behavior, she does! I can give you a 100% guarantee that if you react in a negative way to your child's misbehavior, the situation will escalate. Likewise, I can give you a 100% guarantee that if you can get yourself into a place of responding instead of reacting, you will communicate that calm to your child and interrupt the negative cycle you are in with your child.