Tip of the Iceberg or What Do Consequences Have To Do With It?

Imagine an enormous iceberg, what you see on the surface is only a tiny percentage compared to what is underneath. To continue to focus on behavior is like chipping away at all of the ice that is visible. Just as you get one chunk of ice removed, more just bobs up from what is below the surface. We cannot reach the bottom by chipping away at the top. If we chip away at behavior by using consequences and control without addressing the emotions under the surface...all we're going to get is more negative behaviors bobbing up. And if we keep doing what we've always done, we will keep getting what we've always gotten.